tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post3566674998833031476..comments2023-10-29T09:02:43.219-04:00Comments on Fat Bastard Banded: Addictive Personality?Fat Bastardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03184765010430836874noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-54564340251499384532010-04-21T14:56:15.458-04:002010-04-21T14:56:15.458-04:00I wanted to thank you for commenting on my last po...I wanted to thank you for commenting on my last post. I am going to try to keep in mind that if other people are negative, it's their problem, not mine.Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00603681230277050772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-28145864733437815762010-04-21T08:24:30.684-04:002010-04-21T08:24:30.684-04:00If our lives are empty or sad we search for pleasu...If our lives are empty or sad we search for pleasure, and often as not find it in the wrong places. Nothing gives you instant pleasure the way food does (no, not that either), and that, I have always believed, is the root of our problem. We demand instant gratification to make us feel better, and what we need to learn, preferably from childhood, is patience. Plus the ability to smell doughnuts and not be prepared to kill for one.<br />That's how I see it anyway.<br />CarolineLonicerahttp://lonicera53.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-39239338862717086852010-04-14T08:37:13.683-04:002010-04-14T08:37:13.683-04:00I suppose in a sense they do have a pill for it, i...I suppose in a sense they do have a pill for it, if you have OCD. <br />I really do believe the whole addictive personality stuff, when I was younger and drank, it wasn't just a little, it was jump right in and drink as much as I could. I don't really think I was an alcoholic but I certainly did abuse alcohol for a while. And I know I have issues with food in that sense. So I probably would have said the same thing if that were my son talking about alcohol, I would have suggested he wait and tell him about my addictive personality. Since it likely wasn't the time to delve further into the issue in the car, I might even take time to talk about it again in a more private place so I could really share a lot and let him grasp where I am coming from. I see my 4 year old eat and I'm already worried for him. I refuse to withhold food from him at age 4 but you can bet I try to offer him healthier choices. Now our older kids, not much I can do there since they're 18 and older and don't struggle as much with food as they do alcohol and you can bet I ride them about it too. <br />Sorry I took off in my own direction here, I guess I just wanted you to know that I would have said that to my child too.Butterfly/Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16772725446286020704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-68258532207273158912010-04-13T14:54:19.913-04:002010-04-13T14:54:19.913-04:00So good to hear from you! I've been MIA from ...So good to hear from you! I've been MIA from blog-land lately and I think you were too for awhile? Anyways...it is nice to see some more testosterone. Poor Andrew was getting lonely.Amanda Kiskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08035180757671095192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-38192825835888398932010-04-13T12:58:43.656-04:002010-04-13T12:58:43.656-04:00I, for one, am TOTALLY addicted to your personalit...I, for one, am TOTALLY addicted to your personality! *wink*<br /><br />For me, I would have to say, the biggest thing the band is doing is really making me AWARE of my thinking in terms of my addiction to food. There are definitely times where I am eating something AWESOME and I am just pissed off at my band because it's keeping me from utterly pigging out, but it does. It just makes you so aware. And I really think that it's changing my way of thinking where it comes to food, whether it's out of fear, or whatever. Who cares, right? Change is good!!<br /><br />PS: Don't smoke...that shit'll kill ya! ;)Gillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422010996986937582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-13630453133726204212010-04-13T11:14:52.272-04:002010-04-13T11:14:52.272-04:00It is such a great thing though that your son told...It is such a great thing though that your son told you about the few he has had. Keep those lines of communication open and it gives him an outlet to share.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400904095865742386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-42370708068914856732010-04-13T10:38:41.485-04:002010-04-13T10:38:41.485-04:00I think we can't 100% blame our daily bad choi...I think we can't 100% blame our daily bad choices strictly on addictive personalities. I mean, once we acknowledge our challenges it is our responsibility to do whatever we can to accommodate.<br />Is it hard sometimes? Of course. Do we still have to find solutions to compensate for our triggers? Absolutely.<br />I think it's not JUST the addictive personality, it's also the ability (or lack thereof) to acknowledge it and willingness to make the choice to manage one's own behavior responsibly once the addiction had been realized.<br /><br />I guess what I'm getting at is that we cannot allow ourselves to use addiction as an excuse. It may be the driving reason behind the negative behavior, but once we're to the point that we recognize it as addiction then education and free will come into play. If one has recognized it, then I feel one can no longer use it as an excuse.<br />In AA they tell you to take it one day at a time. This puts empowerment back into the individual's hands and emphasizes that they have a choice. Big bad evil addiction (to whatever) can be overcome by our own choices daily. So when we give in to our urges, it has become a decision we made at that moment and not the power of the addiction its self.Cheeseburger Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13744869369395221800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-38883288061025913312010-04-13T10:08:06.539-04:002010-04-13T10:08:06.539-04:00I believe in addictive personalities just because ...I believe in addictive personalities just because I've seen family genetics pass them down from great-grandparents through to my own child and her second cousins. We all have different things to be addicted to, but I think it has something to do with being linked within the ADD gene, you tend to focus with intensity on one thing because, even if it's bad for you, it calms you. Luckily, a lot of what my daughter is "addicted" to right now is harmless, but I've been through food, cigarettes, even minor addiction to drugs... granted, I can pick up and put down the smokes and the pills because I somehow manage to signal in my brain that it's no good for me, but food you gotta eat, right?Manic Pixie Dream Sluthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16083090390604114658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1116176310286991081.post-56485197295020653842010-04-13T09:58:17.647-04:002010-04-13T09:58:17.647-04:00If they did have a pill for it, I'd take too m...If they did have a pill for it, I'd take too many! At least you're in good company.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07794746954511347596noreply@blogger.com